It seems that nearly every month I hear of a new book or article that touts the latest trends in parenting styles. Most recently I heard about the Lawn mower parent –one that cuts down any challenges in front of their children. There is attachment parenting, the helicopter parent, drill sergeant parent, consultant parent and one book … Continue reading Parenting Styles: What Works?
This time of year, many of us are wondering how to change bad habits. Others plan out ways to accomplish big goals for the year. We may take big ideas and break them down into small steps or we may subscribe to a “Guru’s” fool proof way to “rock out 2019”. I recently read a book that argued … Continue reading How to Change your brain
I often talk with parents who are concerned about video game addiction. They tell me about the games their children play online, the amount of time spent, the disagreements, behavior change and struggles of navigating the new frontier of technology. Video Game Addiction: Recent studies have raised concerns about the impact that online gaming has on … Continue reading Video Game Addiction: Is my child addicted?
In my previous post entitled Marriage Therapy: The Four Horsemen I introduced you to the work of marriage therapist couple John and Julie Gottman regarding the four communication patterns that are strongly correlated with divorce. These four horsemen are Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling. Thankfully the Gottmans have also identified the antidotes to the four … Continue reading Marriage Therapist: the Four Horsemen antidotes
Marriage therapy is focused on helping couples heal the hurts that have accrued over the years in a relationship. It is common for couples to enter marriage therapy deeply hurt, angry, and frustrated. It is also common for couples to have a hard time articulating exactly what it is that brought them to such a … Continue reading Marriage Therapy: The Four Horsemen
I am often asked, How can I help my stressed child? We live in a culture full of stress. There is pressure to be involved, pressure to be the best, and pressure to fit in. Some claim that the current generation is exposed to more stress than any previous generation. Psychologists define stress as “the … Continue reading How can I help my stressed child
Self-esteem is a concept that is regularly discussed in our culture. Many parents fill their child’s life with activities, play dates, and positive affirmations in the hopes of creating greater confidence. In many cases however, it does not seem to work. The harder we work to build our kids up the lower their self-regard. This … Continue reading How to build your child’s self-esteem?
I was watching my son’s baseball game the other day and happened to overhear an exchange between two parents and their two sons that compelled me to write this post. The two boys were joking and laughing with one another through out the game. One of the boys joked with his mother sitting near by … Continue reading How Porn Addiction Hurts
I graduated with my PhD in Counselor Education and Supervision on May 12, 2018. I was privileged to be the commencement speaker for Adams State University's graduate school ceremony. Below is the text of my Address: Great Accomplishment Graduates!! Is this a great day or what?!! If you are like me, there were moments in … Continue reading Service through Presence
Dialectical Behavior Therapy is an evidence-based form of counseling that was developed for the treatment of borderline personality disorder (BPD). Marsha Linehan developed the model by combining the commonly used concepts of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) with mindfulness and meditation practices. Research has demonstrated that dialectical behavior therapy is an effective treatment for BPD and … Continue reading Dialectical Behavior Therapy