What is Co-Dependency?

You Complete You If the title of this post makes you think of an oft-repeated movie line from the mid-nineties, it is supposed to!  The quote you’re probably thinking of comes from the 1996 film, Jerry Maguire, starring Tom Cruise and Renee Zellweger. With characteristic intensity, Tom Cruise looks into Zellweger’s eyes and says, “I … Continue reading What is Co-Dependency?

Marriage Conversations for Connection

My last post regarding couples counseling discussed the three demon dialogues described by Susan Johnson in her book Created for Connection. The three patterns of conflict most common in couples counseling are called find the bad guy, the protest polka, and freeze and flee. Each dialogue is a unique pattern of couple interaction driven by … Continue reading Marriage Conversations for Connection

Marriage Counseling

We provide couples therapy in Quincy, IL for couples that have experienced disconnection, infidelity, conflict, or separation.  Couples therapy is one of the most important services I have the privilege of providing. Often time’s couples come to me not knowing exactly what went wrong in their relationship. Not only that, they struggle to figure out … Continue reading Marriage Counseling

Does Counseling Help?

Counseling for Adolescents in Quincy IL At times counseling seems like a secret and mysterious thing. Counselors rarely talk about what happens in a session. People are hesitant to tell others if they have been in counseling. Some counseling professionals use big words, with abstract meanings that add to the mystery. Thankfully there has been … Continue reading Does Counseling Help?

How to create a great marriage

How do you create a great marriage? At the end of couples counseling sessions I often ask, "what is one thing you could do to serve your spouse this week?"  If a great marriage is something that is created, I believe serving your spouse is the first act of creation. What are some ways we … Continue reading How to create a great marriage

5 Ways to Connect With Your Spouse

Connection with our children is crucial, however research also shows that the relationship between a child’s parents is also very important for childhood outcomes. Beyond that having a connection with your spouse just makes married life more enjoyable and rewarding. Here are five simple ways to connect with your spouse Plan a Date night: Be … Continue reading 5 Ways to Connect With Your Spouse