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Boys and Mindfulness

“Mindfulness means paying attention in a particular way: on purpose, in the present moment, and non-judgmentally”                   -Jon Kabat-Zinn Mindfulness is all the rage these days. It seems like teachers, parents, news personalities, and especially counselors are talking about how mindfulness helps to reduce stress, anxiety, and depression. (I wrote about other ways to help you … Continue reading Boys and Mindfulness

How to Teach Emotional Intelligence to Your Son

What is the most important thing you hope to teach your son before he turns 18? Many parents focus on skills like, driving a car, spending money wisely, working hard, or study habits. But, research seems to show that teaching our sons emotional intelligence may be the most important thing we do. In 2003 researchers … Continue reading How to Teach Emotional Intelligence to Your Son

How to create a great marriage

How do you create a great marriage? At the end of couples counseling sessions I often ask, "what is one thing you could do to serve your spouse this week?"  If a great marriage is something that is created, I believe serving your spouse is the first act of creation. What are some ways we … Continue reading How to create a great marriage

How To Raise Self-Reliant Kids

My wife and I were rushing the kids out the door for school this morning and one of my worst parenting fears was “triggered”. While all his siblings were climbing into the car, one of my sons came stumbling out of the laundry room. His backpack was haphazardly draped over his shoulder, crumbs were strewn … Continue reading How To Raise Self-Reliant Kids

5 Ways to Listen So Your Son Feels Heard

Express Empathy Listen to your sons statements Go within & Check, “How would I be feeling if were him?” Express your understanding through an empathy statement of “You feel______________because _________________ It sounds like you feel… I sense you feel… As I listen to you, I am aware of how ___________you must be feeling. In other … Continue reading 5 Ways to Listen So Your Son Feels Heard

5 WAYS TO HELP YOUR SON WITH ANGER

I regularly encounter families that are struggling to assist a pre-teen or teenage son with managing his anger. I have encountered it so often that I have made the focus of my practice working with adolescent males. The unfortunate thing about anger is that it often gets a bad rap. Yes, sometimes anger is expressed … Continue reading 5 WAYS TO HELP YOUR SON WITH ANGER

What is EMDR?

If you are looking for EMDR in Quincy, IL then you have come to the right place.  I have been getting a lot of calls lately regarding my use of Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR). It seems that word has gotten around about the effectiveness of this treatment and that more people are searching … Continue reading What is EMDR?

The Three Biggest Challenges of Christian Fatherhood

I recently read a report on the “State of Biblical Fatherhood”. This report was based on a survey that Manhood Journey asked members of their online community to complete. The survey received responses from 274 fathers most of whom are Christians. Although this survey was not conducted as a scientific research endeavor it does offer … Continue reading The Three Biggest Challenges of Christian Fatherhood

5 Ways to Connect With Your Spouse

Connection with our children is crucial, however research also shows that the relationship between a child’s parents is also very important for childhood outcomes. Beyond that having a connection with your spouse just makes married life more enjoyable and rewarding. Here are five simple ways to connect with your spouse Plan a Date night: Be … Continue reading 5 Ways to Connect With Your Spouse

5 Ways to Connect With Your Son

Parenting is all about connecting with your children.  Sometimes we want to make it about obedience, education, success or love.  But, really all of those things follow from connection.  If you are connected to your son he will obey you.  Connection with your son increases his chance at success in school, relationships and work.  The … Continue reading 5 Ways to Connect With Your Son