The Connections Blog

Marriage Counseling

We provide couples therapy in Quincy, IL for couples that have experienced disconnection, infidelity, conflict, or separation.  Couples therapy is one of the most important services I have the privilege of providing. Often time’s couples come to me not knowing exactly what went wrong in their relationship. Not only that, they struggle to figure out … Continue reading Marriage Counseling

Does Counseling Help?

Counseling for Adolescents in Quincy IL At times counseling seems like a secret and mysterious thing. Counselors rarely talk about what happens in a session. People are hesitant to tell others if they have been in counseling. Some counseling professionals use big words, with abstract meanings that add to the mystery. Thankfully there has been … Continue reading Does Counseling Help?

Sharing Faith With Your Children

I have had the wonderful privilege of working with many Christians struggling to parent their child through the difficult teenage years. Most of these families are like any other family that enters counseling. They are struggling with conflict, rebellion, communication difficulties, trust issues, and emotional challenges. One unique concern for Christian parents, however, is the … Continue reading Sharing Faith With Your Children

Adolescent Boredom Busters

For many parents the worst phrase that could come out of their adolescent’s mouth is, “I’m Bored”. This phrase can push the parent fear buttons of “entitlement”, “laziness”, “ungratefulness” or “failure-to-launch”. These buttons when pushed tend to produce feelings of failure, inadequacy, and helplessness. The problem of Boredom Richard Winter described the problem of boredom … Continue reading Adolescent Boredom Busters

Boys and Mindfulness

“Mindfulness means paying attention in a particular way: on purpose, in the present moment, and non-judgmentally”                   -Jon Kabat-Zinn Mindfulness is all the rage these days. It seems like teachers, parents, news personalities, and especially counselors are talking about how mindfulness helps to reduce stress, anxiety, and depression. (I wrote about other ways to help you … Continue reading Boys and Mindfulness

How to Teach Emotional Intelligence to Your Son

What is the most important thing you hope to teach your son before he turns 18? Many parents focus on skills like, driving a car, spending money wisely, working hard, or study habits. But, research seems to show that teaching our sons emotional intelligence may be the most important thing we do. In 2003 researchers … Continue reading How to Teach Emotional Intelligence to Your Son

How to create a great marriage

How do you create a great marriage? At the end of couples counseling sessions I often ask, "what is one thing you could do to serve your spouse this week?"  If a great marriage is something that is created, I believe serving your spouse is the first act of creation. What are some ways we … Continue reading How to create a great marriage

How To Raise Self-Reliant Kids

My wife and I were rushing the kids out the door for school this morning and one of my worst parenting fears was “triggered”. While all his siblings were climbing into the car, one of my sons came stumbling out of the laundry room. His backpack was haphazardly draped over his shoulder, crumbs were strewn … Continue reading How To Raise Self-Reliant Kids

5 Ways to Listen So Your Son Feels Heard

Express Empathy Listen to your sons statements Go within & Check, “How would I be feeling if were him?” Express your understanding through an empathy statement of “You feel______________because _________________ It sounds like you feel… I sense you feel… As I listen to you, I am aware of how ___________you must be feeling. In other … Continue reading 5 Ways to Listen So Your Son Feels Heard

5 WAYS TO HELP YOUR SON WITH ANGER

I regularly encounter families that are struggling to assist a pre-teen or teenage son with managing his anger. I have encountered it so often that I have made the focus of my practice working with adolescent males. The unfortunate thing about anger is that it often gets a bad rap. Yes, sometimes anger is expressed … Continue reading 5 WAYS TO HELP YOUR SON WITH ANGER